So many times I’ve watched my three-year-old daughter take centre stage.
In her usual fearless style, she shines without hesitation - dancing, twirling, and owning every inch of the space around her, as if the world was hers!...
And in those moments, I felt so proud of her…but also reflective.
Because somewhere along the way, I had once lost that part of myself.
The Stories We Internalise Stay With Us
As children, we absorb everything - the words spoken to us, the looks we receive, the emotions we sense but can’t yet articulate.
And without realising it, we start forming beliefs about who we are and how we’re meant to show up in the world.
I remember the messages I internalised as a child:
“You’re such a good girl, aren’t you?” (Translation: Be agreeable. Don’t rock the boat.)
“You’re so quiet and shy…” (Translation: You belong in the background.)
“Better to stay at the back, no one will see you there.” (Translation: Taking up space isn’t safe.)
So, I did what many women do - I adapted.
I learned to be 'good'.
I learned to be quiet.
I learned that shining too brightly might bring unwanted attention, criticism, or rejection.
And while my confidence grew over time, the subconscious patterns stayed (without me even realising it).
Whenever I stepped forward, they pulled me back.
Whenever I tried to expand, they whispered “Who do you think you are?”
The weight of these old beliefs followed me into adulthood, showing up in my business, my decisions, and even in the way I saw myself.
Until one day, I realised something that changed everything…
We Don't Have to Keep Carrying These Stories
I didn’t want my children to watch a version of me that stayed small.
I wanted them to see a woman who owned her voice.
Who took up space unapologetically.
Who shone without waiting for permission.
So, I did the deep work I had been avoiding.
It was uncomfortable, yes.
It forced me to face the stories I had been carrying for, well decades.
But it was also the most freeing, beautiful, and necessary thing I’ve ever done.
For the first time, I truly felt that I was enough.
I fully embodied it, deep in my subconscious.
And when that shift happens? Everything transforms…
How These Stories Show Up In Your Life & Business
If you’ve ever found yourself hesitating to take up space, second-guessing your value, or sabotaging when alignment feels close, ask yourself:
What messages did I internalise as a child about success, confidence, or being seen?
Where am I still holding onto an old story that no longer serves me?
If I fully believed I was enough, how differently would I show up?
Because the truth is - these stories don’t just exist in your mind.
They play out in real ways, affecting:
Your ability to confidently charge your worth
The way you show up for your clients and community
The ease (or resistance) you feel when success comes your way
How willing you are to be truly seen in your business
And until you rewrite the story at a subconscious level, you’ll keep managing the symptoms instead of clearing the root cause...
Two Powerful Ways to Start Unearthing Your Own Stories
If you’re ready to start exploring this for yourself, here are two simple but powerful actions you can take today:
1. The “Whisper Exercise”
Your subconscious speaks in whispers. Pay attention to the thoughts that creep in when you’re about to do something bold.
Next time you hesitate, whether it’s raising your prices, saying yes to an opportunity, or sharing your voice - pause and listen to the whisper underneath.
What does it say?
“You’re not ready.”
“You’ll get it wrong.”
“What will people think?”
Now, ask yourself: "Where have I heard this before?"
Chances are, this voice isn’t yours - it’s an old story someone else planted a long time ago.
2. Rewriting the Narrative
Once you’ve identified the belief, take a moment to write it down. Then, rewrite it in a way that empowers you.
“You have to work twice as hard to be successful.” → “I allow success to come to me with ease.”
“You’re not the kind of person who gets chosen.” → “I am worthy of every opportunity that aligns with me.”
“It’s safer to stay in the background.” → “I am safe being fully seen and heard.”
Your subconscious absorbs what you repeatedly tell it. The more you reinforce these new beliefs, the more they become your truth…
I’d love to know - if you could rewrite one story you’ve been carrying, what would it be?
If anything resonates for you, and if you're ready to go deeper, let’s connect for a heart to heart.
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